Having difficulty finding a gift for your groom or groomsmen? Consider the gift of grooming! Today, we have an exciting guest feature from Melissa Colabella, professional groomer and hair stylist at the popular Truman's Gentleman's Groomers here in NYC. Read on for more!
In the Middle Ages, groomsmen stood by the groom to help him snatch back his bride in the event that her family or a jealous knight would rescue her before becoming the groom’s property. Today, groomsmen’s responsibilities are limited, now reduced to just a few responsibilities with a primary focus on planning a wicked bachelor party, and weddings are centered more around the bride than the bride-hunter.
Thankfully, modern day weddings are not violent and archaic, but in some respects we hold onto those old wedding traditions. Most likely, a groom has selected his groomsmen because these special friends and family members have stood by his side up to this point in his life. It’s important for the groom to recognize this brotherhood by showing his gratitude.
A groom’s gift of grooming is a rather selfish, but greatly appreciated and appropriate gesture. This ensures that your groomsmen don’t show up to your wedding looking the same way they did the morning after your bachelor party, presumably keeping the bride happy as well. There are several men’s grooming salons across New York City that offer a variety of services. I specifically work at Truman’s Gentleman’s Groomers, where we offer haircuts and styling, hair coloring, hot lather shaves, beard trims, manicures, pedicures, massages, hair removal, and shoe shines. Regardless of where you go, pre-planning a day of grooming ensures that the party complies to the following grooming rules:
1. Schedule haircuts one to two weeks before the wedding day. This allows a bit of insurance in the event that the hair was cut too short or cut unevenly. Also, it may take a guy a few tries to style his own hair properly or train his cow-lick to stand in the right direction.
2. Have a stylist recommend the appropriate product for each individual. Unbeknownst to most men, “gel” is not the universal styling product. Neither is “paste” or “pomade”. Every product by every manufacture is unique and each style and hair texture require something different. Have the stylist give you a lesson on how to apply it as well.
3. Recommend classic styles performed by a seasoned stylist. While inappropriate to request that your best man cut off his mullet, realize that trendy or outlandish haircuts will make those photos look dated in the years to come. Your recommendation won’t be fitting to someone who wears their hair as a form of self-expression, but it can work wonders for the guy who has been getting his hair cut the same banal way for years simply because he didn’t know what else to do with it.
4. Take care of facial and neck hair the day of the wedding. Since your haircuts were performed a week or so ago, you will need to clean up your neck-line and sideburns. Doing this the day of the wedding prevents any unsightly ingrown hairs from appearing in photos, or uneven sideburns accidentally designed by a groggy, hungover groomsman. This is the best time to get a clean, straight-razor shave and line-up or trim any beards.
6. Groom nails the day of. While unkempt nails will not haunt you like that mullet twenty years from now, realize that there will be a lot of hand shaking. Also, nail grooming may not be part of you or your groomsmen’s normal grooming ritual and it will be nice to have a professional properly cut cuticles to prevent painful cracking which is not only unsightly but also makes one prone to infection.
7. Make sure to have your tuxedo’s pressed and void of Fido’s stray hairs. Fancy yourselves up with your own stylish accessories and don’t forget to bring the ring! If there’s ever a day to look your best, this is it. Your groomsmen will appreciate the pampering and it will pleasantly satisfy your bride.
Thanks Melissa for the awesome advice! For those interested in buying the gift of grooming at Truman's Gentleman's Groomers, check out the website!